Valentine’s Gift Ideas for Her That She Actually Wants

This is not a gift guide for Valentine’s day that has chocolate or flowers.

Those things are nice. And definitely, she wants them…sometimes. But more and more, as we’re coming into a post-pandemic world, these are more symbolic gestures. Capitalistic representative pictures of what romance is “supposed” to look like. All red roses and lingerie.

But in reality, in a post-pandemic reality, that is, she wants to fuckin live. She wants to find happiness from her 9-5 sitting on zoom calls all day. She wants to find peace and comfort in the arms of the one she loves, but also in the understanding that THEY understand her too. Like really really get her.

These days are different for so many reasons. The Expectations we had for what was considered a good gift idea for valentine’s for your girlfriend or wife ..things have changed, my friend.

Let me help you win the boyfriend lottery (in her opinion) by conjuring up some of the best unique gift ideas for valentine’s that she actually REALLY wants.

I’ve gathered a selection of gifts that are perfect for the most important women on your list. So don’t wait until February to start shopping!

If you’re looking for a unique and interesting gift that will show how much you care, you need to check out our list of Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas That She Actually Wants This Year!

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Valentine’s Day Ideas 2022

Every woman is different, so it can be tough to figure out what she wants. Plus, the closer we get to February 14th, the harder it becomes to find something unique and special.

Don’t feel like searching the mall for hours (hullo Covid and crowds!) Not sure where to buy valentine’s gifts online? If either of those is more your style, then you need to check out our list of Valentine’s Gift Ideas That She Actually Wants

Valentine’s Day Date Night Idea – Valentine’s gifts for girls who don’t like flowers

Speaking from experience, sometimes the last thing I want to do on Valentine’s day is fighting the crowds and the virtue signaling of couples who otherwise never (or rarely) go out.

Instead, get yourself on Doordash/Grubhub/Uber Eats and order dinner direct to you. There’s very little that’s as comforting as eating fancy af sushi in your pajamas.

Speaking of Pajamas:

Lake Pajamas – Valentine’s Gift Idea for the Woman Who Loves to Lounge

Looking for a comfy pajama set that she can wear anywhere? Look no further than LAKE! Their PJs are made of the softest fabric imaginable, and they come in a classic stripe that will never go out of style.

Plus, they’re perfect for any occasion – from weekend escapes with friends to long holidays spent with family. These are a perfect valentine’s gift idea for the girl who’s got everything

Vionic Slippers – What to get the wife for valentine’s day

Designed to provide pain relief for feet and legs, these cozy slippers are perfect for any time of year. With Vionic’s innovative footbed technology, you’ll enjoy all-day comfort and support whether you’re taking a leisurely stroll or tackling your to-do list.

Wyld CBD Gummies – Unique Gift on Valentine’s Day

Friend. If you live in a state where marijuana is legal go ahead and head on over to the wyld website and get some THC in edible form for her. These gummies are DELICIOUS.

If you’re not in such an open state, these CBD gummies are the absolute next best thing. Wyld continually wins awards for their recipes producing full flavor gummies that are a treat for your mind/mood as much as they are for your tastebuds.

Bob and Bob Mini Massage Gun

I have this massage gun. My husband bought it for me for Christmas. I love it. I work out 5/6 days a week and have two children running around the house and a business to run. If the woman in your life is active (or not at all) I promise you, she wants this.

It’s awesome and does everything it says it does…to the point that I’ve started canceling my Massage therapy appointments.

BOB AND BRAD Q2 Mini Massage Gun, Pocket-Sized Deep Tissue Massager Gun, Portable Percussion Muscle Massager Gun, Ultra Small & Quiet Muscle Massage Gun with Carry Case for On The Go Usage

Weighted Blanket

She wants to feel cozy and comforted at the end of a long day and this is the way she’s gonna feel it fastest.

Studies show that weight blankets aid in the release of serotonin and melatonin (the happy and sleep-inducing chemicals).

Quility Weighted Blanket with Soft Cover – 20 lbs Full/Queen Size Heavy Blanket for Adults – Heating & Cooling, Machine Washable – (60″ X 80″) (Dark Grey and White Pattern)

Cocktail Hour Set up

Whether you’re a cocktail enthusiast or just getting started, this shaker set has everything you need to make the perfect drink. With a sleek design and bonus recipe book, it’s easy to mix up something special. She’ll love how easy this is to make her favorite cocktail!

Cocktail Shaker Set, EPTISON 16-Piece Stainless Steel Bartender Kit with Stylish Bamboo Stand & Cocktail Recipes Booklet, Professional Bar Tools for Drink Mixing, Home, Bar, Parties

Apple Watch 7

The Apple Watch 7 Series is the perfect device for anyone looking for a high-quality smartwatch. With its durable stainless steel case and easy-to-use interface, it’s perfect for athletes or busy professionals. Plus, with its wide range of apps and customizable watch faces, you’ll be able to find the perfect watch face for any occasion. Order yours today and experience the best of Apple technology!

Apple Watch Series 7 GPS, 41mm Starlight Aluminum Case with Starlight Sport Band – Regular

My mom treated herself to this watch after she’d been having some heart palpitations. Yep, her cardiologist actually RECOMMENDED IT!

She has become an Apple watch convert as a result.

Classic Watch – Rolex Date Just

If you’re in the market for an iconic watch, look no further than the Rolex Datejust. This watch is perfect for anyone looking for a sophisticated timepiece. It’s something that is both a gift and an investment piece that will surely surprise (and impress) the woman on your valentine’s day gift list. 

Rolex Datejust Mechanical (Automatic) Champagne Dial Mens Watch 16233 (Certified Pre-Owned)

One line a day journal

If the girlfriend or wife in your life is self-reflective, this little journal is going to become a lifeline. A thoughtful gift that helps her unwind, reflect, and look back on the past several years is an awesome way to connect with her.

This journal provides 5 years of one line a day entries. You can start it whenever you receive it and keep reading/writing.

I started mine in early the summer of 2019. To say reading back on the early days of the pandemic is a bit disconcerting is an overstatement, but it definitely brings back memories!

Canvas One Line a Day: A Five-Year Memory Book (Yearly Memory Journal and Diary, Natural Canvas Cover)

That Ice maker that makes the good ice – SHE WANTS THIS I PROMISE!

Does the person in your life CRAVE that ice that’s crunchy but breaks apart easily? The kind that comes out of fountain drinks like at Sonic?

Introducing the GE Profile Opal Countertop Nugget Ice Maker! This handy little appliance cranks out chewable, crunchable nugget ice in no time flat. Perfect for cocktails, sodas, and all your favorite cold drinks, Opal’s nugget ice retains its flavor longer than traditional hard cubes. Plus, with 24 pounds of ice per day and a large-capacity bin that holds up to 3lbs of ice, you’ll never run out of the good stuff again. Schedule fresh ice, monitor your ice maker’s status and order accessories from the convenience of your smartphone with built-in Bluetooth connectivity. Whether you’re entertaining or just chilling out at home, the GE Profile Opal is sure to keep everyone well hydrated.

GE Profile Opal | Countertop Nugget Ice Maker | Portable Ice Machine Complete with Bluetooth Connectivity | Smart Home Kitchen Essentials | Stainless Steel Finish | Up to 24 lbs. of Ice Per Day

A Fancy AF Espresso machine

Brewing lattes, cappuccinos and espressos at home has never been so easy – or so stylish! The De’Longhi Stilosa Manual Espresso Machine features a sleek, contemporary design that will complement any kitchen countertop. Plus, it’s easy to clean and comes with all the tools you need to make delicious coffee drinks like lattes, cappuccinos, and flat whites.

With its 15 BAR pump pressure, this machine extracts rich flavor from your coffee beans for an authentic espresso experience every time. And thanks to its manual milk frother, you can easily texture your milk to create the perfect drink.

De’Longhi Stilosa Manual Espresso Machine, Latte & Cappuccino Maker, 15 Bar Pump Pressure + Manual Milk Frother Steam Wand, Black / Stainless, EC260BK

Apple AirPods Pro

Two Words: Noise Cancellation.

If the woman in your life has kids, she wants these to drown out their screams at the end of a long day.

I’m kidding.

Kind of.

or she wants to drown out the sound of the neighbor’s dog barking all day long.

Or the chatty office mate who always is on the phone gabbing to someone and not doing their work.

You get the point. Get them.

Apple AirPods Pro

Kindle Paperwhite

If she’s a reader, she wants this.

She loves the feeling of a book, but holding them and the physical space they take is something she doesn’t want. She likes how the paperwhite function helps her calm down and relax after a long day.

Get this for her.

All-new Kindle Paperwhite (8 GB) – Now with a 6.8″ display and adjustable warm light – Ad-Supported

Shattered Glass Ceiling Necklace

Yes, I said this gift ideas list was free of jewelry but…I think it’s okay if we make one exception for this…

If the woman in your life is breaking barriers (or trying to) this is a pretty awesome gift idea for Valentine’s day.

Showing your support for the ways in which she’s overcoming the odds… that’s some true love right there.

There are a lot of designs on Etsy that are affordable and unique.

Amazon Echo Dot 4th Gen

I need Alexa to play me some 90’s hip hop while I wrote this article. She also helps me stay organized throughout my day and week (i.e. “here’s your reminder! You have to leave in 5 minutes for your appointment!)

If the woman in your life loves listening to music while cooking dinner, or just wants a hands-free way of checking the weather and traffic updates while she’s busy, this is an awesome gift idea for Valentine’s Day.

Echo Dot (4th Gen) | Smart speaker with clock and Alexa | Twilight BlueBUY ON AMAZON

Apple iPad Mini 4

If you want to get her a new tablet or mobile device, make sure it’s one she’ll actually use.

As an iPad Mini user myself, I can vouch for this little guy! It’s great for watching Netflix, reading on the go, and gaming (although my thumbs are way too fat LOL). And with 128 GB of storage space, it’ll never run out of room for all her apps.

Something the woman you love uses every day, that’s what she wants for Valentine’s Day!

2021 Apple iPad Mini (Wi-Fi, 64GB) – PurpleBUY ON AMAZON

Bissle Icon Vacuum

So, I’ve said this before and I’m going to say it again…I have a mut of a pup that sheds like a biatch.

I hate dog hair…like a lot, a lot.

So I only get the best vacuum that will attract THREE TIMES LESS of it from my carpets and floors.

If she has pets, this is the Valentine’s Day gift idea for her that she actually wants!

BISSELL ICONpet Cordless with Tangle Free Brushroll, SmartSeal Filtration, Lightweight Stick Hand Vacuum, 22889, Titanium/Black/BlueBUY ON AMAZON

Roku Streaming Stick

If you’re not sure what to get her, but she watches a lot of TV…

…this is the Valentine’s Day gift idea for her that she actually wants!

It’s fast. It’s easy. She can use it anywhere in the house with an HDMI port available. And since it only weighs 2 ounces, you won’t even know it’s there.

Roku Streaming Stick+ | HD/4K/HDR Streaming Device with Long-range Wireless and Roku Voice Remote with TV ControlsBUY ON AMAZON

Le Creuset Dutch Oven

The Le Creuset Dutch Oven is perfect for whipping up meals while allowing flavors to slowly simmer into one another.

If the woman in your life loves to cook, she wants this Dutch Oven.

Give it to her and watch as she creates magic with every single pot and pan that you gave her (and didn’t listen to when she said not to).

Seriously. You should’ve listened. (You’re welcome!)

Le Creuset Enameled Cast Iron Signature Braiser, 3.5 qt., WhiteBUY ON AMAZON

KitchenAid Artisan Stand Mixer

If you want to get her an appliance for Valentine’s Day, make sure it’s something she’ll actually use.

The KitchenAid Artisan is the one I have and love. It has a whopping 5-quarts of metal mixing bowl space, enough power to knead bread dough (yes, I was one of those sourdough starting bitches from the Pandemic Lovato!) and I have no regrets!)

I don’t use this for sourdough but I do use it for all the other baking I do. That bad boy looks beautiful on my counter too.

KitchenAid KSM3311XAQ Artisan Mini Series Tilt-Head Stand Mixer, 3.5 quart, Aqua Sky BlueBUY ON AMAZON

FujiFilm Instax Mini 8 Instant Camera

The FujiFilm Instax Mini 8 is the perfect gift for the woman who loves to take photos but doesn’t want to lose them in her phone forever.

This camera isn’t just fun-it’s also functional! She’ll never have to worry about losing or deleting a shot again because she can print it out and put it in a scrap book or on her wall so she won’t forget.

You don’t have to worry about the hassle of uploading these photos since they can be printed right from your phone’s camera roll.

Give her the gift that captures both memories and moments at once!

Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Instant Camera – Lilac PurpleBUY ON AMAZON

What Not To Get Your Girlfriend/Wife for Valentine’s Day

Unless she has explicitly asked you to buy her a peloton, or a subscription to a yoga ap, or a bike, or a treadmill, do not (I cannot say this loud enough for the men in the back) DO NOT get her exercise equipment. Like, immediately no.


… if she has ASKED YOU! or mentioned how she “really wants to work out more” or if she has said the words “you could get me a treadmill for valentine’s day” then yes, babe. Go for it.

Here are some awesome gifts for valentine’s for the girlfriend on your list who’s asked you for exercise equipment:

Peloton Tread or Bike/Bike + (or any other type of treadmill or exercise equipment.

The Peloton Tread is a treadmill that has become increasingly popular in recent years.

It’s popularity can be attributed to the many features and benefits that it offers users.

Some of these features include: a 22″ touchscreen, 11 built-in workouts, Wi-Fi enabled, space-saving design, and more.

The Peloton Tread is also unique in that it offers users live and on-demand classes from the comfort of their own home.

This feature makes the Peloton Tread a great option for those who are looking for an at-home workout solution.

Some of the instructors who make the Peloton Bike so fun include Robin Arzon, Taryn Toomey, and Cody Rigsby. If she’s ready to join the boo crew, this is THE gift she really wants.

The woman in your life deserves something thoughtful and personal. If you’re struggling to find the perfect Valentine’s Day gift idea, consider one of these options that she’ll actually love!

Flowers and chocolates are nice, but they're not the only thing that your special someone wants this Valentine's Day. Check out these unique gift ideas that she'll love more than anything else!

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